Adult Virgins – An Urban Myth or Growing Phenomenon?
I won't tell if you don't
According to MomLogic and Dr. Wendy Walsh, adult virgins do exist, in greater numbers than once thought. The only reason why we never hear about it is because they are often too shy or embarrassed to participate in reports and surveys. And it makes perfect sense – would you tell any (even a stranger) that you still haven’t done the deed at 30?
So how does this happen? Says Walsh:
“How they got to this place is a story unique to each of them. Missed opportunities, social awkwardness, body image concerns, religious messages, a physical handicap, and even extreme shyness may have all contributed to their situation. More men than women seek help for adult virginity, but that doesn’t mean that women aren’t as vulnerable to the condition. Obviously, there are no statistics on adult virginity because people are often too shy to self-report.”
And what is the cure for adult virginity? The good doctor recommends that they go to sex therapists, educators and sex surrogates for help. And what’s a sex surrogate, you may ask? Contrary to popular belief, they are not “professional” prostitutes – they help their clients with intimacy issues, body image concerns, the development of social skills, and discover sexual potential by sometimes using a hands-on approach.
The question here is twofold. First, would you ever tell anyone, even a doctor, that you were an adult virgin, and secondly, would you enlist the help of someone like a sex surrogate to help you out? Leave your reply in the comments section.
I’m an adult virgin,
I’m 36 years old, as is my twin brother. We were born on July 28 1973. Due to religious convictions we have decided to obstain from sex until marriage. Since I am not ready for marriage do to the fact that it’s just not a financial option for me; I have chosen to just not participate in the social scene of dating.
I believe that one day I will get married and that there is a special woman out there for me, chosen by God from all eternity. Till then, when the time is right, I have chosen to obstain from sex, masturbation and porography for the hope that one day, hopefully soon, everything will make sense.
Life is a choice between good and evil. Not to be judgemental of anyone else, especially in the arena of love, but I choose to follow my conscience above any other faculty.
Sure I’m shy, not in the best shape and socially awkward. But, those are not the reasons I’m a virgin. Tecnically I’ve had plenty of opportunities, I just haven’t followed through on them.
I’m not ashamed of my virginity. Sure I’d rather find my soul mate and move on with life. But, until that God moment happens I’m just going to stay the course and be faithful to my conscience. I’m proud of the fact that I’ve stayed true to what I believe in even if it means that I’m still a virgin at 36.
- William
Great response William! I applaud your convictions!
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hey william, i do respect your ideas, but do not forget that you are getting older and older day by day and then sexual strenght that you may have when you are 20 is not the same when you are 40
so my suggestion is if by 40 you did not try sex yet, well roll up your sleeves and do it!!!! you will see that once you will try you cannot stop and you will want to recuperate the lost time
take care ciao
I an a vergin as well, and am going to take matters into my own hands about the issue. I have my reasons for joining XXXBlackbook.
I’m looking for a first encounter, and hoping to find a fellow vergin. Open minded and wants to just have a good time. Know there are conciquences, but not worry too much about them for a first go.
Side note: please forgive my site for incompleteness; it is still fairly new.
I’m 26, and will be 27 in the new year.
Well,how about this?I’m 45,will be 46 next month.I’ve always been socially awkward,shy,but I’ve had my share of dates.I’m usually the one being approached or introduced because of my shyness.And picture a hairy Shrek,ok?(lol).When I was about 12,I was assaulted by a family member,and in turn,I knew it was wrong but tried to do it to two other female family members,but my conscience stopped me.So thru junior and high school I had many friends of both sexes,but still considered the friendly freak(?).That I can remeber I’ve only had two girlfriends,and I just barely got physical with my second.And we had to break it off recently,because she has bipolar disorder;her choice to break up,not mine.So is this a predicament or what?I would love to find someone to be my surrogate,but I don’t think they have that in San Antonio,Tx.Sorry to ramble onJust wanted to get people’s opinions,and hopefully move my sex life from theory to reality.thanks or letting me vent(?).M
I would gladly volunteer to be a sex surrogate. I have had one sweetheart who was a virginal adult lady that so wanted to change her status in that area but was very shy and due to religious beliefs was struggling. We became very good friends and talked very openly about many issues and shared deeply as friends on many levels… eventually we became lovers and it was a very big privilege to help her and teach her in the following months about her sexuality and we both together learned many things… There is nothing like the bond we shared and I hope to be close to her again someday… I moved away and we still talk when we can but it is not practical to visit very often… she still has a big piece of my heart from that bond and will have for the rest of my life….
Virginity is a very special gift that should not be taken or given lightly… a persons virginity can be very precious to both parties if handled well. After my experience in her case I regretted that my virginity was carelessly cast aside in the heat of youthful lust in the backseat of a car with a girl that I later found out was already pregnant and was looking for more desireable husband material than the baby’s real father…
So to those of you who are still virgins don’t worry, share that when you are ready with the proper deserving person… someone whom you are good friends with… make it special and with someone who will continue with you that special bond and relationship…
For those of us who are no longer virgins, if we encounter someone still virginal… make sure what this relationship means… what you will share is a special bond that should be respected and honored… perhaps for life… in a lifelong comittment…..
If you’re a vigin cos religious believes, what in the world are you doing in this site?
“So how does this happen?” That shows the wrong focus, like confused discussions about the “causes” of poverty. Virginity and poverty are default states; both a sex life and wealth require causes to get you out of those states. It shouldn’t surprise anyone that the right combination of causes for a sex life often don’t happen for certain adults.