Swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend. It can occur in a private residence, at a party or with a third person in a threesome. These couples like having sex with other people as well as, and along with, their regular partner. They can also get off on watching their partner have sex with someone else, like sharing their fantasies with their partner and other people or just enjoy having sex with lots of people.

Also known as sharing, partner or wife swapping, it basically comes down to the fact that people involved in the swinging lifestyle are consenting adults enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with multiple partners. You can find swinging communities throughout the world – this is an activity that knows no cultural boundaries!

Here are a few of the situations and terms that couples look for when looking to swing with other partners:

• Meeting a single guy or girl: Although it’s much easier to find a single man who wants to join in on your arrangement, there are always some adventuresome single gals out there who love to be the third wheel in a relationship. The easiest way to meet a single to join your group is on the Internet (using a dating site that caters to sexually adventurous people) or at speciality swinging clubs. Some clubs don’t allow single guys through their doors, but they do love the single ladies.
• Swingers’ parties and clubs: If you live in a large urban center, you can be sure that there’s a party going on near you. To find them, Google your area for a local swingers’ community and start posting on their wall or blog posts. These websites cater to a tight knit group of trusted couples, so it may take a while to become part of the gang. When you do find a party, ask what the policy is for new comers, or what the activities will take place at the party. Some venues have different kinds of parties on different nights, so make sure you are aware of the type of party you will be going to.
• Greedy girls: Now this is a cool kind of party, which involves a gathering up to about 6 girls and as many as 75 men (hence the name).
• Swinger Spa: This is much like a Greedy Girls party, though most have a couples’ only area where you can get some action.

Jack Rabbit Vibrator: A basic essential, the “Rabbit” is probably the first vibrator you ever bought… and for good reason. This powerful vibe hits all the right places and is built tough to deliver a lifetime of orgasms. Get your rocks off with synchronized rotating metal beads and six different vibration and rotation speeds! If you want to go beyond basic, try the new cordless and waterproof version for even wetter fun!

The Big O Vibrating Cock Ring: Oh baby! We love ourselves a good cock ring, and the Big O is one of our faves. Why? To start, it’s super-stretchy, reusable and has nine different auto-changeable speeds! An added bonus is its specially enhanced silicone gel ring that stimulates the clitoris with extended ticklers for superior orgasms. It’s the toy that will have the both of you making an “O” face to remember.

Fleshlight: If you haven’t experienced the pleasures of a Fleshlight yet, you don’t know what you’ve been missing! Now available in a variety of different orifices and porn stars, there’s a Fleshlight for every occasion. Designed to recreate the velvet texture of a vagina, this toy offers an incredibly realistic sensation.

Wet Together Lubricant: A new couple’s lubricant, Together comes with two bottles of 2 fl oz bottles – one for him (blue) and one for her (pink). Her lube gently tingles when he applies it, while his will gently heat on contact. Offering longer lasting, silky smooth lubrication and sensation, Wet Together goes on silky and clean (no gloopiness, which is important in a lube), it’s hypoallergenic, odorless and colorless once on, and will not harm latex. When you’re all done, it washes away easily with mild soap and water – no fuss, no muss.

Aneros Prostate Stimulator: Men, for an orgasm like no other, the Aneros Prostate Stimulator will never steer you wrong. Designed to stimulate the prostate both internally and externally, its curly handles allow the wearer or a partner to rock the toy back and forth, and the long forward handle presses into the perineum (the area between the anus and balls) creating added stimulation to the internal root of the penis.

We Vibe: Hands free, strap free and wireless We Vibe is soft and conforms to the female shape, making it comfortable and easy to use. Its tapered “tear drop” shape naturally hugs a woman’s G-Spot while she’s having sex. The We Vibe’s internal G-Spot vibrator motor provides stimulation directly to the G-Spot, while the Clitoral Pad nestles in between the labia and the clitoris. It’ll have her screaming “WEEEEEEEE” in no time!

The most outrageous thing I’ve ever done to get into someone’s pants was when I asked my girlfriend’s mother if she would take a naked picture of me so I could give it to her daughter, as a funny Christmas gift that I`m sure would surprise her. Her mother happily agreed and was excited to have a chance to see me naked – in fact she even offered to fluff me before we took the pictures. Once her daughter opened her gift on Christmas morning and saw that the photo was taken in their living room she couldn’t wait to invite me over for dinner that night. After dinner she took me to her bedroom and attacked me, in a really good way!  –Bobothebooboo

I streaked a girls hair, gave her a manicure and pedicure and a massage, but it back fired and the girl was too relaxed. After five minutes she went to sleep – least that’s what I hope was the reason… –playwivu

I had a girl jokingly tell me that anything short of stripping down naked and streaking for a mile would just be lazy, cheap, and unworthy attempt by me for sex. To her surprise I immediately agreed to those terms. To make sure I actually completed the jog, instead of running around the corner and hiding in a bush for ten minutes, she drove her car next to me until she had clocked a mile on her odometer. We agreed that after a mile I could jump in the car and she would drive me back. She thought it would be funnier to see how far I could go instead of telling me when the mile was finished. She let me run two and a half miles before filling me in on her joke. I had to catch my breath, rest for an hour, and take a shower first but the sex was worth it. –down4dtown

I introduced myself to a sleek redhead in LaJolla, CA and wanted her to have lunch with me.  She said she had to go to work, and when I asked where, she mentioned a timeshare sales office near where we were.  I found it on my own, talked myself into the meeting, and listened to the presentation.  She came out with other salespeople, saw me, and we did a “how about that coincidence” chat.  I bought a one week condo on condition that she would take me to dinner… she said ok, and she was one of the sexiest women I’ve been to bed with.  The next day she said she was married, so that was that. –letsgetgood

I taught her how to drive a tractor-trailer, over-the-road, coast-to-coast semi. It worked!  Of course this was before I was happily married.  Now she is an accomplished semi driver! –mred9021950

“My worst date was definitely the first time I met someone who I originally met online. When I arrived at the restaurant where we were scheduled to meet, he was a full foot shorter than me, was completely bald and was at least 15 years older than in his pictures. But here’s where it gets totally insane. Towards the end of the date, this woman walked up to our table and introduced herself as his wife! I nearly choked! She smiled and sat down, and the two of them went on to inform me that she is dying of cancer, and wants to find a woman to marry and take care of her husband so she can die in peace! She thought I’d be perfect. I thanked them for dinner, wished them luck in their search, and left.  –Lisa

“My worst date experience was sitting in a park, doing nothing, and saying nothing, until he asked for a blow job on the first date!” –Kayla

On our first date, we met at a bar. After a couple of drinks I realized she was too tipsy to go to dinner so suggested I take her home. Carrying her shoes in one hand, I needed help to get her to the front door of the pub and then needed to get a cab to drive us to my car around the corner! By the time she was in my car she had passed out! I had briefly heard her surname and that she lived locally so off to the 7-11 to see if she was in the phone book and find her address. Address in hand I drove to her house and ended up leaving her asleep in my car and took the bus home. In the morning I picked up my car but there was no Sleeping Beauty just a message on my phone to say she had a great night and looked forward to seeing me again soon. –Ken

On a first date when I was a freshman in college, we were going to go to dinner, but first, we had to “get some cash.” He took me to a blood bank to donate plasma! We got extra cash since it was the first visit for both of us and while I was there, my bed “won” the drawing and I received an extra $10. –Cathy

I was meeting my first and only blind date. Understandably I was very nervous. To calm my nerves, I sat at a bar and ordered a drink. My hand was shaking and I managed to spill the bulk of the drink down my pants. It was too late to do anything about it, she was on the approach and I was blushing furiously. I was a mess the whole night and she couldn’t take her eyes off my pants. I don’t think she believed I spilled my drink. She kept mentioning incontinence pads and how they helped her after her pregnancy! –Peter

Years ago, I met a woman online and I drove to her house to pick her up, a 1.5 hour drive.  She jumped in my car, then proceeded to complain about her previous boyfriend the entire car trip, how he mistreated her and how all men were dogs. After driving for about 15 minutes, I turned around and drove her back home, said goodbye and drove to the movies by myself.  What a disaster.  She really had a lot of baggage to unload and trust to regain before hitting the dating scene again. –Mark

Men want sex more than women: Huge myth! Fact is, the ladies like it just as much. It’s just that women tend to be thinking about other things, like how tired they are after a day of work and cleaning the house. Add to all that is the fact that hormones play a big role in how much they want to get it on – like during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time. Plus, since women attach more emotions to sex, they aren’t going to beg for action if he’s been acting like a dink.

If you’re happy and you know it, you must be having sex: It’s a popular misconception that happy couples must be having good sex most of the time. It’s hard to find a couple who have been together for a long period of time that is still having raw, uncaged sex every single night for years and years. Anyone who claims to be having constantly mind-blowing sex after being married with kids for 10 years may be telling the truth – but chances are they’re going at it with someone other than their spouse.

Men are more promiscuous than women: Okay, so there’s a kernel of truth behind this one, but the truth is, it’s much less than you think. When polled about their sex lives, men overestimate while women underestimate, due to societal pressures. You also have to factor in how attractive the people in question are. An attractive and sexually motivated woman is likely to have had more partners than a not-so-great-looking guy around the same age. It’s all about opportunity.

Women don’t like porn or dirty sex. A flat out myth! They may not admit it, but the erotica section of XXXBlackBook gets a lot of its content and traffic from our female members. Every woman is different, but there are more than a few who just want to be thrown on the bed for a raunchy romp – no rose petals on the bed or sweet talk needed. So rest assured that men aren’t the only ones dreaming of dirty, dirty sex.

Men are always ready for and want sex. Unless you’re a 17-year-old who’s just landed his first girlfriend, you don’t fall into this category. Once a man hits his mid-20s, other parts of his life start to become equally as important as sex, and that means energy and focus is needed elsewhere. Real life dampens a lot of men’s sex drive – work, stress, pressure, bills and arguments. It’ll put a kibosh on the friskiest of men.

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Variety is the spice of life – and that goes for sex too. Before your time is up, make sure you get you freak on in the following places.

The hood of a car: Alternately, you could use the back of a pick-up truck, for a little added privacy, but for those of you who like the thrill of full exposure, the hood of a car is one of the hottest places to do it (especially if you’ve just parked it after a long drive) to do it. Never mind the back seat – that was so 9^th grade. You may want to spread a blanket on the hood to avoid a stuck ass, but then again, the suction provides a better grip when thrusting.

On a hike: Ahhh, nothing like a little fresh air and exercise to get you horny. The next time you hit the trails with your honey, plan on being one with nature while you’re au natural. You can do it standing up and leaning against a tree, or find a secluded patch of grass and stretch out a blanket. Either way, look out for angry mama bears, poisonous plants and pervy park rangers before you get busy.

An exercise bench: We’re not talking about your local gym here – this is one you can do in your own home. An awesome way to work up a sweat and burn off some calories, use your exercise equipment in ways you’ve never thought of before.  Take the bench – soft and padded, the bench is adjustable, so you can lay it flat down or move it to the seated position. You get extra sexy points if your home gym has mirrors on every wall!

In an elevator: Aerosmith knew what they were talking about when they wrote “Love in an Elevator”.  Most buildings have them (unless you’re in a walk-up, then improvises just do it in the stairwell), and if you’re lucky your office has one (for a nooner you don’t have to leave work for). Don’t expect anything more than a quickie, especially if the building experiences a lot of traffic, and be sure to check for video cameras, otherwise you may just be in for a surprise when you open the doors and step out to applause from the security guards.

In a restaurant: Sometimes, you just can’t wait until the check arrives. That’s when it’s time to throw your partner a knowing looking and head to the restroom for a little à la cart sex. Try to do it before dessert, that way you can work up an appetite for something sweet. This type of rendezvous is tricky to pull off, but you may be in luck if the restaurant isn’t too busy and it has stalls for privacy.

Sex in a car: When was the last time you got into the back seat and did the nasties? High school? It’s time to polish off that old favorite because it’s due for a comeback. Having sex in a car screams spontaneous – it’s fun, you don’t need a room reservation and there’s always the thrill of getting caught. And don’t limit it to the back seat – recline the front seat or get/give a BJer while parked on the side of the road. The possibilities are endless!

Have sex with a co-worker: Have you been dreaming about the sexy guy in accounts receivable, or that hot girl in marketing, but just haven’t had the nerve to take it to the next level? Make this the year that you break out of your shell, flirt shamelessly with them and bend them over your boss’ desk (hopefully while your boss is out of the office for the day). Having a fling with a co-worker makes the work day that much more interesting – just keep those dirty emails to a minimum!

Have a one-night stand: Ahhhh, remember your drunken college days. Ok, we don’t either, but we have blurry recollections of the one-nighters we used to pull. And there’s nothing quite like the ego-boost of a random pick-up for casual sex that will make you feel sexy and alive. It can be at a bar, the grocery store or even someone you met over the Internet. Just make sure it only lasts one night and never speak to them again – then cross it off your resolutions list.

Buy a new sex toy: Sure, we all have the reliable old rabbit or handy sleeve, but make this the year to expand your toy box and add something totally new to your night stand drawer. It needs to be a toy you normally wouldn’t think about owning, whether it’s ben-wa balls, anal plugs or a starter bondage kit. That’s what makes it such a leap – trying something different, perhaps loving it and adding it into your regular rotation.

Shave it off: We talked about crotch coifs in a previous article, but this year, try something new with your pubes. If you normally just trim, go get a Brazilian. Already get it all shaved off? Let it grow in a bit and opt for a sassy heart or lightning bolt shape shaved in your furry patch. If you don’t like it, the good thing is it will all grow back soon enough.

David Letterman: Just this year, David Letterman surprised everyone when he made a statement on his show admitting to an affair with a co-worker. Letterman came clean due to a blackmail attempt and even apologized to his wife on air (which probably saved him a golf club upside his vehicle). The woman in question was Stephanie Birkitt, his former assistant as well as ex-girlfriend of the accused extortionist, Robert Halderman. It looks like he’s sticking with his marriage, as there’s been no high-profile divorce talk as of yet.

David Duchovny: After years of sex addition and reported cheating, Duchovny checked himself into rehab for sex addiction after his wife, Tea Leoni, filed for separation. The actor, who plays a sex-obsessed womanizer in TV series Californication, came clean because the tabloids where about to release their own story. We are happy to say the Duchovny and Leoni are still together and are getting ready to renew the wedding vows.

Kobe Bryant: In 2004, a hotel employee accused Kobe of sexually assaulting her. And how did Kobe react? He bought his wife a $4 million diamond ring. His wife stayed, and settled out of court with the woman in question. The ring must have erased her memory, because Kobe’s wife is still around (and sporting that honking piece of bling!).

Hugh Grant: This Brit was a bad boy in 1995 when he was picked up by police with hooker Divine Brown in Hollywood. At the time, he was dating actress and former model Liz Hurley, who stayed with him several years after he was caught with his pants down. Two weeks after the incident, he admitted his wrong doing on the Jay Leno Show and made no excuses for his behavior.

Charlie Sheen: He might be happily married now, but Sheen as seen his share of sex scandal. In 1995, a woman sued him and said that he had struck her in the head when she refused to have sex with him. Soon after, it was revealed during the trial of Hollywood madam Heidi Fleiss that Sheen had shelled out some $50,000 for ordering her call girls more than 20 times.

Natural: You like to let it all hang loose – your hair is a badge of honor! You don’t believe in trimming, even when you’re sporting Speedos. More prevalent on men than women, letting your pubic hair grow is often seen as a sign of virility, but with the rise of manscaping, we may be seeing an extinct breed. Ouch Factor: None, unless of course, your long and curlys get stuck in the zipper.

Trimmed: There’s a bit of maintenance involved, but it’s a weekly or bi-weekly ritual (it really depends on who else is seeing it that day). The pubic hair is shortened but not removed or shaped – think of it as the equivalent of going to the barber and asking for a bit off the top. You done tame the growth of hair from spreading outward from your groin, you just contain it from the ends. Ouch Factor: None.

Triangle: also known as the MC Hammer, this style emulates “chevrons” that the ‘90s singer had shaved into his left eyebrow. Your pubic hair is removed, most commonly by waxing, from the sides to form a triangle so that pubic hair. The Triangle ranges in size from the edge of your bikini line to up to an inch reduction on either side. Hair length varies, but it should be kept short so your Triangle keeps its shape. Ouch Factor: Low/Medium – depending on if you shave or wax. And although shaving initially hurts less, you may be prone to razor burn, which can itch like hell.

Landing strip: You are ready for takeoff and clear for landing. The Landing Strip consists of a long, centered vertical rectangle that resembles an airplane landing strip, leaving a thin strip of hair lining down the front and center of the pubic region. Hair is removed from the sides to achieve this affect, usually by waxing as the results last longer. Popular with women who like a clean look but still enjoy a bit of hair down there. Ouch Factor: Medium/High – Take off may be a bit bumpy, but the results are worth it.

Brazilian: This style became hot a few years ago, and even with its high Ouch Factor, people are still getting it done on a regular basis. Usually performed at a salon (we totally recommend that you do), the Brazilian removes pubic hair from the front all the way around to your butt crack. All that’s left is a small patch of hair centered, narrow stripe above the vulva approximately an inch in size. Ouch Factor: Ay carumba! This one is off the Richter scale, but those who have had it done tell us that it usually gets less painful after time, especially if performed by someone who knows what they’re doing.

The Hollywood: The preferred style of celebrities and porn stars (men and women), the Hollywood style leaves nothing to the imagination. All your pubic hair is removed, either with a lot of wax or shaving. Waxing usually lasts long, but you really have to like pain to go through with it. Ouch Factor: Extremely high. Try having a couple of drinks before trying this one on for size.