Jack Rabbit Vibrator: A basic essential, the “Rabbit” is probably the first vibrator you ever bought… and for good reason. This powerful vibe hits all the right places and is built tough to deliver a lifetime of orgasms. Get your rocks off with synchronized rotating metal beads and six different vibration and rotation speeds! If you want to go beyond basic, try the new cordless and waterproof version for even wetter fun!

The Big O Vibrating Cock Ring: Oh baby! We love ourselves a good cock ring, and the Big O is one of our faves. Why? To start, it’s super-stretchy, reusable and has nine different auto-changeable speeds! An added bonus is its specially enhanced silicone gel ring that stimulates the clitoris with extended ticklers for superior orgasms. It’s the toy that will have the both of you making an “O” face to remember.

Fleshlight: If you haven’t experienced the pleasures of a Fleshlight yet, you don’t know what you’ve been missing! Now available in a variety of different orifices and porn stars, there’s a Fleshlight for every occasion. Designed to recreate the velvet texture of a vagina, this toy offers an incredibly realistic sensation.

Wet Together Lubricant: A new couple’s lubricant, Together comes with two bottles of 2 fl oz bottles – one for him (blue) and one for her (pink). Her lube gently tingles when he applies it, while his will gently heat on contact. Offering longer lasting, silky smooth lubrication and sensation, Wet Together goes on silky and clean (no gloopiness, which is important in a lube), it’s hypoallergenic, odorless and colorless once on, and will not harm latex. When you’re all done, it washes away easily with mild soap and water – no fuss, no muss.

Aneros Prostate Stimulator: Men, for an orgasm like no other, the Aneros Prostate Stimulator will never steer you wrong. Designed to stimulate the prostate both internally and externally, its curly handles allow the wearer or a partner to rock the toy back and forth, and the long forward handle presses into the perineum (the area between the anus and balls) creating added stimulation to the internal root of the penis.

We Vibe: Hands free, strap free and wireless We Vibe is soft and conforms to the female shape, making it comfortable and easy to use. Its tapered “tear drop” shape naturally hugs a woman’s G-Spot while she’s having sex. The We Vibe’s internal G-Spot vibrator motor provides stimulation directly to the G-Spot, while the Clitoral Pad nestles in between the labia and the clitoris. It’ll have her screaming “WEEEEEEEE” in no time!

Men want sex more than women: Huge myth! Fact is, the ladies like it just as much. It’s just that women tend to be thinking about other things, like how tired they are after a day of work and cleaning the house. Add to all that is the fact that hormones play a big role in how much they want to get it on – like during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time. Plus, since women attach more emotions to sex, they aren’t going to beg for action if he’s been acting like a dink.

If you’re happy and you know it, you must be having sex: It’s a popular misconception that happy couples must be having good sex most of the time. It’s hard to find a couple who have been together for a long period of time that is still having raw, uncaged sex every single night for years and years. Anyone who claims to be having constantly mind-blowing sex after being married with kids for 10 years may be telling the truth – but chances are they’re going at it with someone other than their spouse.

Men are more promiscuous than women: Okay, so there’s a kernel of truth behind this one, but the truth is, it’s much less than you think. When polled about their sex lives, men overestimate while women underestimate, due to societal pressures. You also have to factor in how attractive the people in question are. An attractive and sexually motivated woman is likely to have had more partners than a not-so-great-looking guy around the same age. It’s all about opportunity.

Women don’t like porn or dirty sex. A flat out myth! They may not admit it, but the erotica section of XXXBlackBook gets a lot of its content and traffic from our female members. Every woman is different, but there are more than a few who just want to be thrown on the bed for a raunchy romp – no rose petals on the bed or sweet talk needed. So rest assured that men aren’t the only ones dreaming of dirty, dirty sex.

Men are always ready for and want sex. Unless you’re a 17-year-old who’s just landed his first girlfriend, you don’t fall into this category. Once a man hits his mid-20s, other parts of his life start to become equally as important as sex, and that means energy and focus is needed elsewhere. Real life dampens a lot of men’s sex drive – work, stress, pressure, bills and arguments. It’ll put a kibosh on the friskiest of men.

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Variety is the spice of life – and that goes for sex too. Before your time is up, make sure you get you freak on in the following places.

The hood of a car: Alternately, you could use the back of a pick-up truck, for a little added privacy, but for those of you who like the thrill of full exposure, the hood of a car is one of the hottest places to do it (especially if you’ve just parked it after a long drive) to do it. Never mind the back seat – that was so 9^th grade. You may want to spread a blanket on the hood to avoid a stuck ass, but then again, the suction provides a better grip when thrusting.

On a hike: Ahhh, nothing like a little fresh air and exercise to get you horny. The next time you hit the trails with your honey, plan on being one with nature while you’re au natural. You can do it standing up and leaning against a tree, or find a secluded patch of grass and stretch out a blanket. Either way, look out for angry mama bears, poisonous plants and pervy park rangers before you get busy.

An exercise bench: We’re not talking about your local gym here – this is one you can do in your own home. An awesome way to work up a sweat and burn off some calories, use your exercise equipment in ways you’ve never thought of before.  Take the bench – soft and padded, the bench is adjustable, so you can lay it flat down or move it to the seated position. You get extra sexy points if your home gym has mirrors on every wall!

In an elevator: Aerosmith knew what they were talking about when they wrote “Love in an Elevator”.  Most buildings have them (unless you’re in a walk-up, then improvises just do it in the stairwell), and if you’re lucky your office has one (for a nooner you don’t have to leave work for). Don’t expect anything more than a quickie, especially if the building experiences a lot of traffic, and be sure to check for video cameras, otherwise you may just be in for a surprise when you open the doors and step out to applause from the security guards.

In a restaurant: Sometimes, you just can’t wait until the check arrives. That’s when it’s time to throw your partner a knowing looking and head to the restroom for a little à la cart sex. Try to do it before dessert, that way you can work up an appetite for something sweet. This type of rendezvous is tricky to pull off, but you may be in luck if the restaurant isn’t too busy and it has stalls for privacy.

Sex in a car: When was the last time you got into the back seat and did the nasties? High school? It’s time to polish off that old favorite because it’s due for a comeback. Having sex in a car screams spontaneous – it’s fun, you don’t need a room reservation and there’s always the thrill of getting caught. And don’t limit it to the back seat – recline the front seat or get/give a BJer while parked on the side of the road. The possibilities are endless!

Have sex with a co-worker: Have you been dreaming about the sexy guy in accounts receivable, or that hot girl in marketing, but just haven’t had the nerve to take it to the next level? Make this the year that you break out of your shell, flirt shamelessly with them and bend them over your boss’ desk (hopefully while your boss is out of the office for the day). Having a fling with a co-worker makes the work day that much more interesting – just keep those dirty emails to a minimum!

Have a one-night stand: Ahhhh, remember your drunken college days. Ok, we don’t either, but we have blurry recollections of the one-nighters we used to pull. And there’s nothing quite like the ego-boost of a random pick-up for casual sex that will make you feel sexy and alive. It can be at a bar, the grocery store or even someone you met over the Internet. Just make sure it only lasts one night and never speak to them again – then cross it off your resolutions list.

Buy a new sex toy: Sure, we all have the reliable old rabbit or handy sleeve, but make this the year to expand your toy box and add something totally new to your night stand drawer. It needs to be a toy you normally wouldn’t think about owning, whether it’s ben-wa balls, anal plugs or a starter bondage kit. That’s what makes it such a leap – trying something different, perhaps loving it and adding it into your regular rotation.

Shave it off: We talked about crotch coifs in a previous article, but this year, try something new with your pubes. If you normally just trim, go get a Brazilian. Already get it all shaved off? Let it grow in a bit and opt for a sassy heart or lightning bolt shape shaved in your furry patch. If you don’t like it, the good thing is it will all grow back soon enough.

Natural: You like to let it all hang loose – your hair is a badge of honor! You don’t believe in trimming, even when you’re sporting Speedos. More prevalent on men than women, letting your pubic hair grow is often seen as a sign of virility, but with the rise of manscaping, we may be seeing an extinct breed. Ouch Factor: None, unless of course, your long and curlys get stuck in the zipper.

Trimmed: There’s a bit of maintenance involved, but it’s a weekly or bi-weekly ritual (it really depends on who else is seeing it that day). The pubic hair is shortened but not removed or shaped – think of it as the equivalent of going to the barber and asking for a bit off the top. You done tame the growth of hair from spreading outward from your groin, you just contain it from the ends. Ouch Factor: None.

Triangle: also known as the MC Hammer, this style emulates “chevrons” that the ‘90s singer had shaved into his left eyebrow. Your pubic hair is removed, most commonly by waxing, from the sides to form a triangle so that pubic hair. The Triangle ranges in size from the edge of your bikini line to up to an inch reduction on either side. Hair length varies, but it should be kept short so your Triangle keeps its shape. Ouch Factor: Low/Medium – depending on if you shave or wax. And although shaving initially hurts less, you may be prone to razor burn, which can itch like hell.

Landing strip: You are ready for takeoff and clear for landing. The Landing Strip consists of a long, centered vertical rectangle that resembles an airplane landing strip, leaving a thin strip of hair lining down the front and center of the pubic region. Hair is removed from the sides to achieve this affect, usually by waxing as the results last longer. Popular with women who like a clean look but still enjoy a bit of hair down there. Ouch Factor: Medium/High – Take off may be a bit bumpy, but the results are worth it.

Brazilian: This style became hot a few years ago, and even with its high Ouch Factor, people are still getting it done on a regular basis. Usually performed at a salon (we totally recommend that you do), the Brazilian removes pubic hair from the front all the way around to your butt crack. All that’s left is a small patch of hair centered, narrow stripe above the vulva approximately an inch in size. Ouch Factor: Ay carumba! This one is off the Richter scale, but those who have had it done tell us that it usually gets less painful after time, especially if performed by someone who knows what they’re doing.

The Hollywood: The preferred style of celebrities and porn stars (men and women), the Hollywood style leaves nothing to the imagination. All your pubic hair is removed, either with a lot of wax or shaving. Waxing usually lasts long, but you really have to like pain to go through with it. Ouch Factor: Extremely high. Try having a couple of drinks before trying this one on for size.

The more recent, the better. Your pictures, at the very most, should be no older than a year. And there are no excuses why you can put up new pictures – digital cameras make it easy (Additional tip – if you’re going to use the one in your phone, don’t take one using a mirror, they look like crap and we can’t see your face because of the flash). Have a friend take it for you in a flattering pose – feel free to be inventive!

Have a well-lit, clear facial or head-and-shoulders picture. And make this shot your profile pic. We understand that you may not want people to recognize you, but worry less about these excuses and more about why you’re on the site, and we think you’ll agree that the latter is much more important.  Facial or head shots should feature that and nothing more. Yes, it’s important to have a full body shot, but those should stay in your other photo albums. Other explicit shots should be delegated to your Private photo album – save a little mystery for later!

Group shot. Yes, we all know you’re popular and you play well with others, but it’s not cool to your peeps hang out in your online personals profile. Besides, if we see you with your arm around someone else, we don’t know who they are – your spouse, your ex, your BFF? Which one are you? Is it a 2-for-1 deal? Just keep the pictures to you and leave friends and family out of it. (Additional tip – don’t crop out pictures that include your ex. It’s just wrong and it looks crappy!)

What to do: Before the picture is snapped, here’s a list of to do’s to keep in mind:

•             Wear colors and clothing that flatters you

•             Look into the camera

•             The best lighting to use for pictures is at beginning and the end of the day

•             Smile as warmly as possible

What to avoid: Just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do. Leave the sunglasses off – it doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look shady. Same goes with a baseball cap, as women wonder what it is you’re trying to hide under there. Ladies, tone down on the makeup – keep it to a minimum or go for the au natural look. For both sexes, get the hair out of your face so we can see just how good looking you really are. Finally, don’t include the fuzzy pictures. If it’s hard to see you, the person looking at it will wonder why you don’t want them to see you and move on.

Bowling: There’s no better way to bowl your date over (sorry, we couldn’t resist). But seriously, bowling is a great place to just get to know someone better. Think about it: It’s pretty hard to take yourself seriously when you’re wearing rented shoes and dining on a feast of beer and nachos. The laidback atmosphere at an alley is very conducive for letting your hair down, relaxing and just being yourself. And with no dress code to worry about, you can feel confident you’ll fit right in with jeans and a T-shirt.

Drive-in Movie: If you’re lucky enough to still have them in your area, go retro and bring your squeeze to a drive-in movie. The movies they screen range from classic to relatively new releases, and the best part is you can talk, make out and throw popcorn at each other in the comfort of your own vehicle. Added bonus points if your seats recline all the way down!

Go-Karting: You remember how much fun this was when you were a kid? A great way to test drive you date’s sense of fun and adventure, go-karting let’s you inner-child take over for an evening. Money wise, it’s pretty cheap and it’s a great chance to show off your mad NASCAR skills.

Wine tasting: Show your date how refined you are by taking them to a local winery. You can schedule the tour after dinner or on its own – either way, you should go on a full stomach. Sexy and sophisticated, a date at the winery is fairly inexpensive, so you can use the extra cash to by a bottle of your favorite vintage to take home and share.

Karaoke: The ancient art of making an ass of yourself is an awes first date idea. What a great way to see if your date is uptight or is willing to put themselves at the mercy of a drunk crowd just for the hell of it. If they need a little prompting to get onto the stage, don’t take “But I can’t sing” as an excuse – suggest a duet so the two of you can let loose together.

Miniature Golf: Do a little investigating online and you’ll find a cheesy mini putt course in your area. Even ones with a kiddie theme are fine. Just wait until the sun goes down, as most places feature some mood lighting. The second best time you’ll have slapping your balls around.

Looking for lust in all the wrong places? The gang here at Intimatters have complied their list of the top 5 pick-up spots where you could meet your next passionate partner!

1. Online: Just a few short years ago, nobody would ever say they met a date over the Internet (even though we were all doing it!). Today, and especially in these trying economic times, online dating is the fiscally responsible choice and the #1 spot for meeting people. Even if you’re looking for something a little more risqué than your run-of-the-mill dating site, an adult dating community is just what the doctor ordered. Take XXXBlackBook for example – with over 3 million members lookin’ for some lovin’, there is no shortage of hot guys and girls to hook up with. Try the IM or Video Chat features, which let you connect with potential partners instantly.

2. Work: This may not fly in a smaller company (like here in the Intimatters offices) but larger ones are a hot bed of sexy activity just waiting to happen. These companies often feature a variety of departments you never interact with. Try taking your break or lunch at a different time than normal, as there’s usually a rotating group of new faces. Go for a walk outside – there’s also great potential from other companies located close to yours, all outdoors enjoying the good weather. And if things don’t work out with your coworker, don’t worry – since the company is large, there’s a good chance you won’t see them that often.

3. Sporting Activities: Forget the gym – smart daters are dropping the dumbbells and joining a sports-related group. There are so many to choose from – Learn to Run clinics, beach volleyball, ultimate Frisbee – so you’ll find one that speaks to your skill level. An added bonus is the other members of your team or league are fairly fit, have lots of energy, and most important of all, have plenty of stamina to keep going and going and going… all night long!

4. Grocery store: Hey, everyone’s gotta eat. That’s why your local grocery store is a great place to pick up. But be forewarned – the “nice melons” pick-up line doesn’t work anymore (Wait… did it ever work?). If you see someone you like, start a conversation about food – what wine goes with what main course, have they tried a certain food product, or point at something in their cart and ask what aisle they got it from because you’ve always wanted to try it.

5. Volunteer: Exposing your sensitive side is sometimes the quickest way to get someone to expose their private parts. Sign up to feed the kittens or walk the dogs at your community pet shelter, join a cleaning crew to pick up litter or spend a Thanksgiving packing or serving food to the homeless. While you’re knee deep in philanthropic duties, there’s no better time to bring up the “tragic plight of the so-and-so cause,” which can lead you to donate your sexy charitable services at their place. Added bonus: Tout your mad humanitarian skills at parties, gatherings and other social functions to earn the sensitive vote that always pays off in the bedroom.