Hedonism
By Taxman58

Hedonism… the ultimate vacation spot! Here we are together for our first romantic and intimate vacation together.

All of the flirting and word games are nearly over, the time has come for us both to try each other on for size. Me, the older man, and you the younger nubile woman. Granted, age is nothing more than a number. You don’t look your age, and you keep insisting I look younger than I am.

When I see you, my heart always skips a beat. Your hair and figure have always been a stimulus to me, and when coupled with your intellect I’m just lost in you.

But, back to the important stuff, here we are in sunny tropical Jamaica, just the two of us, to finally find out if we fit. I feel the tension between of us, and wonder what is to come?

All the mundane things have been taken care of, and we’re in our sumptuous cabaña on the beach. Our room has sliding doors that let us step out on a veranda and then straight onto the “clothing optional” snow white beach. Your nervous smile belies the apprehension you feel about us being sans clothing for the first time in front of each other. We both know that this is going to be a milestone in our relationship.

The little innuendos and smart ass quips we’ve made back and forth over the life of our friendship have led us to this moment. Now it’s time for us to put up, or shut up.

I’ve only dreamed of what you’d look like standing before me in just your smile. Your perfect breasts, the curve of your waist, the way you tilt your head. It’s always been difficult for me not to show how you affect me when you’re near. Now I’m about to realize my most erotic fantasy or, my greatest fear.

The tension is palpable in the air, you make small talk and I’m stumbling over my words. So I decide we need to break this tension. I stand and walk to you, next to the window, look you in the eyes then put my hand behind your head and draw you toward me for our first real kiss. Your lips are sweet from the complimentary rum drink the hotel has given us, and at first you are a little stiff. Then your lips relax and you return my kiss. As our tongues touch and slide against each other our lips grow warmer. We pull in closer together and I feel your body against mine. As my hand travels down the curve of your back to your hips, you place your arms around my neck and press closer to me. Your response is even better than I was hoping for.

I start to move us toward the large overstuffed bed and you pull away, with a smile, and put your finger against my lips, and say “not yet”. You remind me it’s early in the day and we had planned to sunbathe and go to the pool. Then you head to the bathroom to change into your beach wear.

In a few moments you come out in a cute floral print beach dress and a sun hat, I’ve changed into my swim trunks and we step out to the beach to find a nice place to lie in the sun.

As we walk the fifty or so yards to the beach you put your arm in mine and pull close to me. I feel ten feet tall as the men and other couples turn to admire you as we walk by. Knowing I have the most beautiful and desirable woman on my arm is a real ego boost. You make small talk until we come to a spot with a sand dune to break the wind and provide a little seclusion.

As I spread our towels out, you remove your beach dress, as I turn around I’m surprised, you’re completely nude except for your sun hat. You smile and tell me “when in Rome” with a wave of your hand. Reminding me we are on a nude beach, at “the” sensuality resort for lovers.

You sit on the towels and pat the space next to you for me to join you. Then you look at me with a quizzical grin, indicating I’m overdressed. After removing my trunks you hand me suntan lotion and motion for me to apply to your back.

By now I have a pulsing erection and can see glistening moisture on your exposed labia. You lay on your stomach for me to rub the lotion on your back. It’s all I can do to keep from pulling you to me and coupling with you right then. But, I don’t, and start applying the lotion sensually to your back. The jerk and giggle as the cool lotion hits your back is a sign of the pleasures for us to come.

I rub the lotion in with soft the firm circular motions while massaging out the tension in your lower back, then on to your firm round buttocks. As I massage down to your legs you start rotating your hips in small circular movements. I can again see the moisture on your labia that I have studiously not touched while applying the lotion. After massaging you from shoulder to heel, you turn over and tell me to finish the job.

As I start applying the lotion to the top of your chest and begin massaging it in, I get to your pert hard nipples. You reach up and pull me to you for a long sensuous kiss. My hands begin to explore your body and your free hand goes to my hard pulsing organ and you squeeze, nearly causing me to cum right then.

My fingers have found your stiff little clit and moist opening. With small rhythmic motion of my fingers against your love button, you start to hump my hand and spread your legs further apart. Exploring you more freely now, I insert one finger while continuing to massage your point of pleasure.

My head is swimming knowing that I am giving you the ultimate pleasure and seeing you writhe in ecstasy to my touch. I’m amazed that when you touched my engorged penis that I didn’t ejaculate right then. The pleasure of your touch is so intense; I’m nearly drunk from all the combined sensations. It didn’t help either that I’d had two bourbons before we made it out of the room.

The sounds of the waves are all we can hear, that and the moans of pleasure we elicit from each other.

As I explore your soft moist vagina, my finger is reaching for the little dime sized spongy spot just inside. As I massage this wonderful place you begin to respond even more intensely to my attentions. I can see the pure pleasure on your face as you approach your goal. The grip you have on my hard organ is rhythmically tighter, then looser in conjunction with the pace I am massaging your engorged clitoris. Our levels of excitement are growing rapidly, there’s a sheen of glistening moisture covering your body as your pleasure gets closer.

The arching of your back, your knees spread wider as if begging me to enter you. I shift around and kneel between your thighs, while continuing to softly stroke your swollen clit. The look of sheer lust on your face is so exciting I feel the beginnings of my own orgasm starting to seep from my stiff member.

The aroma of your excitement has reached my nostrils and I instinctively bend closer to taste your sweet nectar. While still stroking your G spot my lips close around the little nub that’s begging for more of my efforts. Just as my tongue starts to flick across it, you start moaning and grab my hair to pull me in closer. At the same time you start pistoning your hips against my face while your wonderful juices start flowing heavier. Then without warning, you stiffen and your ultimate goal is reached with a massive ejaculation squirting out all over my face. While you are trembling and cumming down from your peak, you pull my face up to yours and we share a deep long sweet wet kiss.

While kissing you push me onto my back as you straddle my waist in the classic “cowgirl” position. Raising your hips you reach behind to find my throbbing, leaking member so you can guide it to your wet opening. Gently and slowly, lowering yourself until completely impaled on my lust. We start moving in unison and you lower to my chest, while I caress your back and firm behind. The warmth and silkiness of being one with you is more intoxicating than any liquor could ever be. We slowly move together, feeling the passion rising in us both. Then suddenly you push yourself up from my chest and start moving your hips in a slow circular motion while tightening your internal muscles, making it feel as if you have a hand inside gripping me. The mischievous smile on your face tells me you are working us both to a mighty climax. Without warning, you throw your head back and press down hard on my aching member. As you start to shudder my own orgasm has started. I start spurting the hot liquid into you. You feel each pulse of my orgasm splash inside you; it seems to increase the intensity of your own.

You collapse back onto my chest breathing hard and flushed from head to toe. As we catch our breath, you plant swift kisses on my face and then a soft loving one on my lips.

Had I known the pleasure we would both feel in each other I would have approached you a long time ago about us being a couple.

Making love has proven to be the ultimate way of communication between a woman and a man again, when it is to express love between them.

Holding you in my arms feels the most comfortable and right way to be, you fit me better than any glove could.

The more recent, the better. Your pictures, at the very most, should be no older than a year. And there are no excuses why you can put up new pictures – digital cameras make it easy (Additional tip – if you’re going to use the one in your phone, don’t take one using a mirror, they look like crap and we can’t see your face because of the flash). Have a friend take it for you in a flattering pose – feel free to be inventive!

Have a well-lit, clear facial or head-and-shoulders picture. And make this shot your profile pic. We understand that you may not want people to recognize you, but worry less about these excuses and more about why you’re on the site, and we think you’ll agree that the latter is much more important.  Facial or head shots should feature that and nothing more. Yes, it’s important to have a full body shot, but those should stay in your other photo albums. Other explicit shots should be delegated to your Private photo album – save a little mystery for later!

Group shot. Yes, we all know you’re popular and you play well with others, but it’s not cool to your peeps hang out in your online personals profile. Besides, if we see you with your arm around someone else, we don’t know who they are – your spouse, your ex, your BFF? Which one are you? Is it a 2-for-1 deal? Just keep the pictures to you and leave friends and family out of it. (Additional tip – don’t crop out pictures that include your ex. It’s just wrong and it looks crappy!)

What to do: Before the picture is snapped, here’s a list of to do’s to keep in mind:

•             Wear colors and clothing that flatters you

•             Look into the camera

•             The best lighting to use for pictures is at beginning and the end of the day

•             Smile as warmly as possible

What to avoid: Just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do. Leave the sunglasses off – it doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look shady. Same goes with a baseball cap, as women wonder what it is you’re trying to hide under there. Ladies, tone down on the makeup – keep it to a minimum or go for the au natural look. For both sexes, get the hair out of your face so we can see just how good looking you really are. Finally, don’t include the fuzzy pictures. If it’s hard to see you, the person looking at it will wonder why you don’t want them to see you and move on.

Just say no to scammers

Wouldn’t it be great if we could trust anyone completely? If we knew that everyone out there – whether we knew them or not – had our best interests at heart? Unfortunately, that’s not the way it works, and until it does, you need to look after #1 (that’s you) because you can’t count on anyone else to. The same applies with online dating, so we want to give you some tips and advice on how to spot a scammer and how to protect your online identity.

1.       Protect your password – You would never give your bank card number and password to someone just because they asked for it. Think of your personal ID the same way. Don’t share your password with anyone inside or outside of the online dating site, and the only page you should ever enter you user name and password is on online dating site’s login page.

2.       Sharing personal information – You should never put your personal contact information in your public profile, as everyone will have access to it. Once you feel comfortable with another member, you can always choose to pass along your contact information.

3.       Off-site communication – Be cautious when people try to lure you off of the site and onto another, usually one that requires credit card details to enter it. If this happens to you, please contact the site’s customer service department with that user’s name so they can investigate them further.

4.        Trust your gut – It always knows best. Your instincts are the most accurate indicator when it comes to talking or meeting someone, and you should never ignore them. The moment you begin to feel unsure or unsafe about another user on this site, end communication with them immediately and report them to the site’s customer service agents.

Here are a few last tips on how to know you’re dealing with a scammer:

• They aren’t interested in getting to know you, and will usually deflect any personal questions about themselves.
• They will ask you for money or credit card information for various reasons, or they will try to lure you away from the site.
• Their profile pictures may look “too good to be true,” meaning the picture looks like it’s been taken by a professional photographer and the person featured looks like a model.
• Their profile may be incomplete, or may just contain sexual preferences and nothing about their personality.
• The best way to verify someone’s identity is on Video Chat. Insist on seeing current photos when contacting other members, and remember to give others the same.

First comes sex, then comes marriage

The Love Bug – you never know when it’s going to hit you! One minute, you’re looking around for nothing in particular, the next moment, you’ve found the man/woman of your dreams. That’s what happened with two members who found love in the last place you’d expect – an adult dating site! We asked blushing bride Colombiachula how it all went down:

Question: Why did you first join the site? What were you hoping to get out of it?

Answer: I was getting divorced after 21 years of marriage, my kids were grown, and I found myself with few friends because I spent most of my time been a mother, a wife and working. There was no time left for friends, so I decided to turn into the Internet thinking that it was easier, faster and secure.

Q: Who made the first move?

A: I made the first move.  We were both in the chatroom. I liked how he responded to another member, so I pulled his cam up and started talking to him. The following day, he IM’d me, I got it on my cell because was out of town.  After that we kept talking through email for about 2 months, and then he decided to come here to meet me in person. He was deployed across seas when we met in the chatroom, so we had to wait to meet up.

Q: So when and how did the proposal take place?

A: He spent 2 wonderful weeks here. After he went back to his base in CA, he mentioned getting married, but I didn’t take it seriously because it was too soon for me.  He invited me to Marine’s Ball and that he would love for me to be there with him, because it was his last ball as a marine. We started planning and he mentioned again that we should get married and he would arrange all the paperwork once I got there. I flew in October 31st, and we decided to get married on November 8^th, we applied online for the license and got married November 10^th.

Q: After you got married, you decided to keep your profile active on the site – why and how does he feel about it?

A: I have made several good friends in here, that’s why I keep coming back. He knows and accepts it, because he knows that I have so much fun when that I come here and chat with my friends. I’ve made the adjustment in my profile saying that I was married and was just looking for friends.

Q: What do you like most about the site?

A: The kind of people that I’ve met in here, even though there is also some tards who can get on my nerves. I’ve found very nice, smart, sweet, polite, caring and funny people. I really feel at home when I get to the chatroom and find my roomies. I love it, and have such a great time chatting with them. This site isn’t just about sex – if you know how to look you will find EVERYTHING in here – good friends, attention, moral support, fun, whatever you want you will find it in here!

Switch your Search: By changing the parameters of advanced searches, you’d be amazed at all the people you’ve never seen or noticed. If you’ve been searching for members in your area, broaden your search criteria to your country, or even the world! Don’t let age restrict your search either – try expanding the age range 5 or 10 years on either side and see how many result pages you get out of it. On XXXBlackBook, there are a ton of physical, sexual and lifestyle settings to play around with, so click on as many boxes as you can to see who pops up!

Get Featured: A relatively new addition to XXXBlackBook is Get Featured, which puts your profile front and center where members will be most exposed to it.  For a few bucks, your profile will stand out from the crowd by being placed on home, search and other members’ profile pages. It’s like putting your name in lights on the marquee! If you’re going to take advantage of this awesome feature, make sure you’re making the most of your prime real estate – have a picture and your profile filled out as it gives interested parties a chance to learn all about you.

Video Chat: Even if you don’t have a cam (or don’t want to go on cam) you can still be an active member in the XXXBlackBook Video Chatroom. With a wide variety of rooms to choose from, you’ll always find someone looking to chat you up. When you strike up a conversation with a sexy hottie, you can go off to your own private room for some one-on-one time. If you’re in the mood for cards, there’s a chair at the Texas Hold’em Strip Poker with your name on it!

Talk to me:  How do you make contact with members? Do you just send out emails, or do you stick to sending out flirts? Try this on for size – if you tend to send out emails, try chatting with members using the IM feature.  If you’re a flirting freak, send a saucy and personalized email. Why not ask them for a key to their private photo album, and don’t forget to send them a key to yours while you’re at it (a little tit for tat!).

Profile clutter:  When was the last time you updated your profile? Change it up with a new tag line, new photos or new information about yourself. Hell, you can even throw in a dirty limerick – just be sure it’s not the same old, same old stuff that’s been there for eons.  If you put effort into your profile, it really will pay off. You can even do something as simple as rotating your profile picture with one in your photo album – it will change the look of you entire profile and tempt others to go deeper into it.

Upload a video:  There’s a whole community of members who are addicted to watching amateur videos on our site, and there’s no reason why you can’t get involved. When someone watches your movie, a link to your profile is also shown, so they can go behind the scenes to get to know the director and stars, and if they become fans, will watch and comment on other videos you’ve posted. And, if your video gets picked as XXXBlackBook‘s Video of the Week, hundreds of thousands will watch and comment on it – and you can use those comments as a jumping off point to introduce yourself!

Pick-up without ever leaving the comfort of your bed

The most memorable pick-up to happen to me was sweet, respectful… and I never saw it coming. It happened at a local bar, while I was standing near the dance floor as my friends were dancing. I was approached by a guy (let’s call him Frank) who started chatting with me – no stupid pick up lines, no cheesy come ons – and asked questions that were meant to draw answers he could listen to and build on. After talking for 15 minutes, he left off by saying “You’re here with your friends, I’ll let you get back to them.” And with that, I never saw him again.

There’s a lot you can pull from this experience that will help you with your online flirting skills – if you know where to look! From the all-important introduction to beyond, I’m going to let you in on a few secrets that women wished that you knew. Let’s go over them:

Show a little originality
Before that particular experience, most guys’ flirting attempts were predictable – been there, heard that. Instead of sending a flirt (since they are free, members can receive hundreds a day), send a thoughtful note. I’m not talking about a form letter you sent to 20 other members that day – read their profile, pick out something original and write an email addressing that point. It doesn’t have to be about their looks – everyone will have tried that with them. Take something unique from their profile and start a conversation about it (ie. I am really impressed that you like to go to strip clubs – it takes a confident woman to say that turns them on).

R-E-S-P-E-C-T – not just a catchy tune
Just because she’s on an adult dating site doesn’t mean she’ll jump your bones the minute you show her your peen. Before you hit send, ask yourself: How would this fly in real life? If you went up to a woman at a bar and said “Let’s fuck baby,” chances are you’ll be walking out of there funny and explaining why to others at least an octave higher. Same goes online – when trying to start up a conversation in IM or video, begin with the basics, ask if they would like to chat and tell them why you’d like to chat with them.

Everyone loves a compliment
By simply contacting or responding to someone with a thoughtful chat or email, you are paying that person a great compliment.  I was flattered when Frank came over to talk to me about me. It felt like out of everyone in that bar, he picked me as the person he most wanted to talk with. You can bet that woman you’ve got your eye on has received a lot of compliments on this site, but don’t let that discourage you. When others are telling her that she has great tits, you can take the road less travelled and pay her a sincere compliment, such as “I love your style – I wish I had someone with your taste dressing me!”

The art of seduction
Any professional flirter knows that seduction takes time and effort. Frank didn’t rush the conversation to get what he wanted; he took the time to ask the right questions. After making an initial connection, the goal is to build it to something that satisfies the both of you. It’s important to know where the boundaries lay before you get too personal.

It’s also important to be sexy without turning someone off. If in doubt, ask – use open ended questions along the lines of “How do you feel about…” or “What do you like best about…” Let them lead the conversation with their answers, and all you have to do is follow. It’s not a race, so take it slow – besides, you can truly savor the thrill of the chase when you take your time.

Honesty truly is the best policy
Be upfront and honest about who you are and what you are looking for, that way neither of you will be wasting the others time. Don’t blurt out what your requirements are right off the bat. Build a base, then take the plunge and tell them that you’re looking for NSA online fun or a long-term fling.  They will appreciate that you are being respectful and are more likely to open up about their wants and desires.

Looks may be the initial factor that sparks chemistry, but it’s the interaction that follows that makes it worth pursuing. At first glance, Frank wasn’t at all my type, but by taking a chance, he soon became more attractive to me. You’ll win some and you’ll lose some, but always remember that even though things don’t always work out the way we wanted, doesn’t mean we can’t benefit from the experience or from a great friendship. And, it’s quite common for a cyber-friendship to turn into a passionate affair.

Flirting is an art that anyone can master, and that’s what Frank was doing – practice makes perfect. Oh, and if you were wondering, although I never saw him again, if he had come up to me later on that night to resume our acquaintance, I totally would have given him my number.

Money can't buy you love anymore (by giumaiolini)

Experts say when the economy is in the dumps, our libidos go into overdrive – who knew? Given the uncertainty in the near and possible dreary future, life seems so much easier when there’s someone by your side. But how do you meet and impress a potential partner when you don’t want to shell out big bucks? Intimatters.com offers some solutions for value-conscious daters.

Online is where it’s at

Why would you drop a big chunk of change at a bar when you can go online for a fraction of that? You’re taking a chance when you rely on picking up at a bar – shelling out cash to buy drinks for yourself and someone else who may turn out to be a dud. It’s a smarter choice to invest in a site where you know the type of person you’re looking for is going to be. It’s a relatively inexpensive way to meet people – plus, with less people going to clubs, where do you think they are going? Yep, they’re online!

Added Bonus: You can get to know someone first before committing to that potentially expensive first date.

Rub-a-dub

Light a few candles, pour in the Mr. Bubbles and get naked – a romantic bath for two is an inexpensive date that is guaranteed to end well. Turn on some sultry jazz to set the sexy mood, and if you’ve got a couple extra bucks to shell out, splurge on a low-priced bottle of vino. If you don’t have a tub, a shower works just as well and produces the same end result – the two of you will be naked and wet. Once the water starts to cool, towel each other off and see where that takes you!

Added Bonus: You’ll be multi-tasking by getting clean while getting down.

Cheap Thrill

Forget impressing your partner with an all-inclusive holiday to the Bahamas. Unleash you inner dirty self and rent a trashy hotel room for a night (or a couple of hours!) You can turn it into a fantasy getaway – she’s the hooker, he’s the horny john. When it comes to role-playing, let your imagination run wild! Besides, a trashy hotel holds a certain thrill that a pricey suite can never match.

Added Bonus: Not having to clean up after you’ve done the deed.

Sexy Game Night

We’re not talking about Spin the Bottle! Head to your neighborhood sex store or any number of online shops and pick up an adult-themed game. There are so many to choose from, but don’t let the selection confuse you – pick one or two you can use over and over and over again. Sure, you have to pay the initial cost, but think of it as an investment in entertaining foreplay that will last you long after the recession is a distant memory. A few to consider include Truth or Dare, The Kama Sutra Game and 52 Weeks of Naughty Nights.

Added Bonus: If being competitive gets you off, you’ll be turned on in more ways than one.

Make it a Blockbuster night

Have you exhausted your porn collection and don’t want to rent or buy anything new? Make your own! Get creative – come up with a cheesy plot or just roll the camera and let nature take over. Don’t like the last take? No problem – you just keep shooting the scene until you get it right. Once you’re done, you’ve got a memento to treasure for a lifetime – plus, you can use it for your own pleasure if you find yourself without a leading partner.

Added Bonus: Since porn requires little to no clothes, you won’t have to worry about running up an expensive costume budget.

And the most inexpensive date of all…

Happens in the bedroom – no reservations required! There are so many fun and free things to do – give your partner a massage (complete with “Happy Ending”), practice your mattress gymnastic skills or make the most of your bedroom furniture by having sex on, in or underneath it. Sex is much cheaper than a fancy meal – and instead of gaining weight with all of those rich calories, you’re burning fat. So cancel your gym membership and take your workout into the bedroom!

Added Bonus: Save on heating costs by snuggling with a lover.

There’s no reason to cite the recession as an excuse to stop dating. You’ve taken a great step by joining Intimatters.com – now you can impress your date not just your love-making skills, but also your money-saving ones too!

Sample adult dating profile

You’ve signed up to an adult dating site and you’re ready to start flinging woo like nobody’s business. But what happens when no one flings some woo back in your direction?  Chances are the problem lies in your online profile. Here are a few tips to consider when putting together your profile.

Stand out right from the start
It’s surprising how many people don’t utilize this valuable piece of profile real estate. Think about it – when a hottie runs a search and the matches pop up, how do you intend to stand out from the crowd? And if they do click on your name, what is going to encourage them to scroll down to learn more about you? To make sure they do, you need to make a memorable first impression. Sure, your picture looks great but sometimes that’s not always enough.

Pique their interest with a unique and memorable tag line. Put a little time and effort into in – don’t rip off someone else’s and don’t use the same old overused play on words (ie: Cum and get it). If you don’t feel creative, just stick to the basics – why you’re here and what you’re looking for. You can even use a quote or famous saying you think sums you up best. Try to keep profanities out of it – being abrasive isn’t usually a turn on.

Picture this
We all know that it is an adult-oriented dating site, but we want to let you in on a little secret – nobody wants to see your peen or va-jay-jay right off the bat.

You are much more likely to get the responses you’re looking for with a face or body shot. If your genitals are the only pictures you put up, you’ll probably be disappointed – not many people want to strike up a conversation with your dick. Besides, your private bits aren’t the prettiest part of your body. Save those shots for your public or private photo album and keep some things a mystery until you’ve initiated contact.

Getting to know you
Now here’s where we get down to the nitty gritty. The “About me” section is your chance to tell members why they should get to know you. Don’t be afraid to make it naughty, just watch that you aren’t coming off like a sex-crazed maniac (that tends to turn a lot of people off, strangely enough).

You should always be honest, because if things do progress between you and a certain someone, they will find out the truth eventually, and that’ll mean no bump-and-grind times for you. And it doesn’t always have to be about sex – we would like to know what makes you tick, what you like to do in your free time and perhaps an amusing or sexy anecdote or two.

Highlight your strengths – in and out of the bedroom – and let them know what kinds of things you’d like to do when you meet up. When it’s time to wrap it up, keep it on a positive note. Don’t bitch about how your ex screwed you over, otherwise you’re never going to get screwed.

Make a choice
One of the great things about filling out these kind of profiles is most sites make filling it out easy. Usually, you’ll have a choice of options to select, regarding your lifestyle, your sexual preferences and physical appearance.

It will take you all of five to 10 minutes to fill out, and once you do, it will show other members that you are serious about meeting someone who is compatible. Plus, once you’re done, your profile will be much more interesting to read and will give the person looking at it something to start a conversation with.

Before you post your new and improved profile, don’t forget to run it through spell check. With a little tweaking and editing, your adult dating profile should come off as witty and polished – just like you!